Heartspeak…It is the quiet talk in your head when you are most relaxed and at ease. It is the voice inside you when you are able watch your world, and the people in it, with the truth of your whole being. It is your truth… it is the truth that your heart knows, the truth that is often difficult to say out loud. It is the talk inside you. Heartspeak… It is the language of your heart.
We often hold back our heartspeak. It is vulnerable stuff that makes us feel as though we are hanging it all out there for the world to see–which we are, if it’s done right–but the return on this kind of expression is high, to be sure. In a recent article called ‘6 Words You Should Say Today,’ by Rachel Macy Stafford, the idea of what I am calling heartspeak is explored in the endearing ways with which we view our children and our partners and the effect it has on these relationships. Stafford celebrates the simple but honest phrase, “I love to watch you…(fill in the blank),” and how it can be used in our lives to amplify joy.
Amplify joy. I love that. Who wouldn’t want to amplify joy?
I have been thinking about what it is that our hearts speak, thinking about what it is that is our truth. It seems to me that our heartspeak, our truth, is often a complicated thing. On the one hand, it is, like Stafford notes, the sweet thing we know deep inside our selves that comes out to another in words and does, indeed, amplify joy. But it can also be received in ways other than sincere. It can be received as trite or superficial, received as an intention to manipulate or sway, received as an obligatory act of kindness or a rote gesture of niceness.
And, in its darker forms, but nonetheless truthful, our heartspeak can also be the thing that stings another person when it is not something in sync with their truth. When our heart must speak a truth that might free us but hurt another, a view of truth is often spared for the raw emotions of anger and rage that come from knowing something we don’t want to know. It is sometimes difficult to see the heartspeak of another as an isolated moment of truth when it does not fit our version of what should be.
So, in our human condition, there is this need to speak what our hearts know to be true. It can be a way to deepen meaning between people, to enhance the workings of our relationships or to alter the course of our lives. When we are the one initiating this heartspeak, we must realize the gravity of words and give reverence to their vulnerability–being prepared for the possibility that they are not always received with the intention with which they were spoken. And, when we hear the heartspeak of others, we must also realize the gravity of words, give reverence to their vulnerability while acknowledging the fact that our individual truths do not necessarily exist as a mirror to those of others.
Can we speak our heart’s truth and accept the outcome of doing so? Are we ready to hear the whole truth and nothing but the truth? Could this be a way toward the authentic life?
TRY THIS WEEK: Listen closely to the language of your heart.